Thank you for you post and your concerns. We are feeling much the same as your and your family, however we may be a little more fortunate to be attending a church that is not afraid of these things totally. It certainly is sad today that those who believe the Lords coming is sooner than later get pushed aside.
Having said that the church I attend is not 100% on board, but close enough to where my wife and I can attend and not be offended by watered down teaching most of the time. At least holiness is being preached occasionally. Not enough for my liking, bet better than most.
The thing is, it would be difficult to find the perfect church that agrees 100% with what you believe, the same as it is with me. My wife and I occasionally have floated the idea of leaving our church to scout out others, but we have both done that in the past and are a bit tired of it.
The bottom line is, the church needs you and I as much as we may need them. They are missing out on what you have to offer possibly more than what you can get from them.
Try and find a home church network if you can. I have not yet ventured into that because our church is pretty solid, but if we were to ever leave it would probably be to start our own home church.
We will pray for you and don't hesitate to post more or send me emails so we can connect. Our email is firstname.lastname@example.org We would love to hear more about the dreams you or your daughter have just as many others are having about the Lord's soon return. God Bless you.